Draper and Utah Trauma TherapyEMDR & IFS Intensives – You can explain how you feel and still be stuck in it
EMDR and IFS get underneath what you logically understand about your past and shift how it feels in the present
You’re looking for trauma-informed therapy in Utah and Draper right now because:
You want to heal deeply
Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, people-pleasing, childhood trauma, a difficult relationship with your parent, a harsh inner critic, religious trauma, guilt, or lack of self-trust, you want to finally stop managing it and move on.
you’ve hit the ceiling
You've been in talk therapy before, maybe for years, and it helped you understand yourself better, but you still struggle with the same feelings and behaviors. You can explain them, but you haven’t been able to change them.
Women’s Trauma Therapy in Utah and Draper
EMDR and IFS intensives help you heal trauma in your nervous system so you can have more capacity to deal with the hard moments
Trauma Therapy in Draper and UtahWhat are EMDR & IFS intensives?
EMDR and IFS are two trauma methods that work below the thinking part of your brain, where logical insight can't reach. An intensive is a longer session that gives you the time to gently do this type of deeper work. EMDR and IFS work with your nervous system, where trauma is stored, so your brain finishes the processing it couldn't complete, and the memory loses the charge that keeps pulling you back into it.
intensives can work through:
Anxiety that won't switch off
People-pleasing and fear of conflict
Childhood trauma and a difficult relationship with a parent
Religious trauma or a shift in faith
A harsh inner critic and never feeling good enough
Guilt for having your own needs
Fear of disappointing others
A specific experience you've never fully moved past
Holistic Therapy in Draper and UtahInstead of talking about it in circles, an EMDR & IFS intensive gives you the format to reach the root of it and help your body realize that the past is in the past.
Hi, I’m Haley TolmanTrauma Therapist in Utah and Draper, LCSW
I work with high-achieving, deeply feeling women who carry more than they let on. You're the one people can always count on, but despite all your achievements, you don’t feel at peace with yourself.
You’ve probably done therapy before and you know yourself well, but the anxiety, people-pleasing, religious trauma, and your inner critic haven't budged. Understanding why things are the way they are wasn’t enough to change them.
In talk therapy, around the 40-minute mark, once your guard finally comes down and you're settled enough for the deeper work, it's time to stop. Then you wait a week, walk back in, and spend half the next session getting there again.
I started offering EMDR & IFS intensives to give ambitious, sensitive women both the time and the tools to heal deeper and get free of the patterns they've been managing for years.
Education & Training
EDUCATION
Master of Social Work, Boston College
Bachelor of Social Work, Utah State University
LICENSURE
Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW), Massachusetts, License #LICSW1142133
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Utah, License #12396181-3501
ADVANCED CLINICAL TRAINING
Certified EMDR Therapist and Certified IFS Therapist, with advanced training in complex trauma, dissociative disorders, suicidal and self-harming behaviours, therapy intensives, and integrated EMDR and IFS approaches.
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Certified EMDR Therapist (EMDRIA) and EMDR Consultant-in-Training
Advanced EMDR trainings in complex trauma, dissociative disorders, suicidal and self-harming behaviors.
Certified IFS Therapist (IFS Institute) Level 1 and Level 2, program assistant for IFS trainings, and participation in ongoing IFS consultation
The Integrated EMDR & IFS Model (Levels 1 & 2 with Dr. Kendhal Hart, PsyD)
IFS & Highly Sensitive People training (Martina Williams, LICSW)
Mastering EMDR Therapy Intensives (Dr. Kendhal Hart, PsyD)
Therapy intensive training for therapists, Intensive Design Lab
There are two ways to work with me:
A multi-day intensive to tackle a specific problem or experience, and ongoing intensives for the painful patterns that run deeper.
The Multi-Day Intensive
A focused, 4-day session format for working through one issue or traumatic experience.
This is for the experience or issue you can clearly name, such as a painful event, a breakup, an assault, an argument, or a specific behavior pattern that you want to make progress on (ex: people-pleasing).
We set aside a dedicated block of sessions for that one focus, moving through it with EMDR and IFS, with enough time to settle in, process it deeply, and ground before you leave.
You'll start with an intake session, come back a week or two later for two processing days scheduled back-to-back, and finish with an integration session about a week later.
Investment: $2,800, split into two payments
Additional payment plans available
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A personalized digital workbook with assessments and reflection questions to complete before we start, so our time together is built on a clear foundation.
A 90-minute intake session to map your history, goals, and the beliefs & experiences we'll target.
Two 4-hour processing days on consecutive days, with breaks built in as you need them.
A 90-minute integration session to make sense of what came up and plan your next steps.
A comprehensive written summary of what we processed, which protective parts showed up, and recommendations going forward.
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You have a specific event, theme, or time period to make a meaningful dent in, and you want dedicated time to work through it using EMDR and IFS.
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A single event, like a car accident or an assault
A painful breakup, divorce, or falling-out
A specific conversation or conflict you keep replaying
A stressful stretch that lasted weeks or months
Ongoing Intensives
Extended 3-hour sessions, scheduled at your pace, for deeper and more complex work.
This is for the behaviors, feelings, and trauma that took years to take shape, such as a very difficult relationship with a parent and patterns woven through your whole story rather than tied to a single event.
These sessions are ongoing, but they aren't talk therapy stretched longer. Each 3-hour block uses EMDR and IFS to reach the subconscious parts of your brain where trauma lives, and the goal is fully reprocessing how you feel and react to triggers.
Investment: $750 per intensive.
Please note: a separate 90-minute intake session is required before the first intensive ($300).
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3-hour intensive blocks with enough time to settle, process deeply, and ground before you leave.
A personalized digital workbook to establish your goals and history before we begin.
An approach customized to you, leaning on EMDR, IFS, or an integration of both depending on what your system responds to.
Ongoing summaries and next-step recommendations so the work stays intentional between sessions.
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What you're working through has deeper roots or touches more of your life, such as early childhood trauma, religious trauma, disturbing experiences, and anything that has deeply affected your life for years.
Trauma EMDR Therapy in Utah and DraperWhich Intensive Is Right for You?
Choose Multi-Day Intensive if…
You want to work through one event or one clear pattern, such as a painful conversation, going no-contact with a parent, a breakup, an assault, or behaviors that only show up in specific circumstances.
Choose Ongoing Intensives if…
What you're carrying is harder to point at because it's threaded through your whole story. It took years to build, like growing up managing a parent's moods or a lifetime of putting yourself last, and it needs steady work over time to reach and reprocess.
If you’re not sure which format is right for you, I can give my recommendation during your free consultation!
You may be wondering…But what would I even talk about for three or four hours?
This is a common question I hear, and it comes from picturing an intensive as talk therapy stretched to three or four hours, which it isn't.
There is a structure that I hold throughout your session. We start with preparation skills and exercises we do together, and then move into EMDR and IFS, where much of the work happens internally, not through talking.
You won’t be sitting there trying to find something to say.
EMDR and IFS aren’t talk therapy, and the length of the sessions has a purpose. Trauma work has a natural arc to help you settle in, reach the hard material, and come back up gently, so nothing feels too ‘intense’ and there’s room for new insights to finish integrating.
Your answer to “therapy intensives near me”EMDR and IFS, working together
Most patterns run on two tracks: a stuck memory your brain never finished filing, and a protective part of you that formed to keep you safe around it.
EMDR uses bilateral stimulation, like following a dot on screen or tapping side to side, to help your brain reprocess the memory so it stops feeling as painful in the present. In turn, IFS helps you get to know the parts of you that learned to please & achieve, and tends to the younger wounds sitting underneath them.
I’m trained in both EMDR and IFS, and I use both in my trauma intensives, leaning into whichever method is more helpful for your experiences and goals.
Why an EMDR & IFS intensive instead of weekly talk therapy?
Talk therapy is often where healing starts. It builds self-awareness and gives you language for what you've been carrying. But it has a ceiling, because the part of your brain that understands your history isn't the part that runs your reactions.
You can have all the logical insight, but still flinch, freeze, or over-give when triggered.
An intensive reaches the level talk therapy can’t. EMDR and IFS work with your nervous system, where the pattern is stored, and the longer format gives that work the room it needs to settle in, go all the way to the roots, and come back up gently.
Are Therapy Intensives The Right Fit for You?
Therapy intensivesWho EMDR & IFS intensives are for:
Intensives are a strong fit if you're:
Ambitious
Deeply feeling
Ready to heal on a deeper level
You've likely done therapy before
You're worn out from managing patterns and using coping mechanisms.
You don’t want more understanding of why you feel the way you feel. You want to be finally free of the experiences that are holding you back.
EMDR and IFS Therapy Intensives
Are NOT a good fit for you if:
My intensive format works best when the rest of your life is (relatively) steady.
This work may not be the right fit right now if:
You're currently struggling with substance use or another active addiction.
You're experiencing active thoughts of suicide or self-harm and need more immediate, ongoing support.
Your basic needs, like food, housing, or physical safety, aren't reliably met right now.
You're in or leaving an unsafe relationship.
You're in the middle of a major life upheaval, like a move, a divorce, or an acute crisis.
In these situations, steady, consistent support is the better starting place.
An EMDR & IFS intensive can help if you struggle with:
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People-pleasing and having a hard time saying no
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High-functioning anxiety
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A harsh inner critic
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Guilt and self-doubt
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Religious trauma or shifts in faith
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A difficult or emotionally immature parent
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Perfectionism and never feeling good enough
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A painful experience, such as going no-contact with a parent
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Reactions you understand completely and still can't stop
Are you a therapist doing your own healing work?
Many of my clients are therapists themselves. Whether you want to help the parts of you that get activated at work, experience EMDR and IFS from the client perspective, or dedicate uninterrupted time to your own growth, an intensive gives you the space for your own healing.
An intensive reaches past what you already know and shifts how it feels.
FAQs
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Since intensives require a significant amount of time in my calendar, a 50% deposit is required to reserve your spot, and the remaining 50% is due the first day of your intensive session. Your deposit is non-refundable, but if you need to reschedule your intensive, the deposit amount can be applied towards your new session.
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With my trauma intensives in Utah, you’re not doing talk therapy for three hours straight. EMDR and IFS are different methods that work with your brain and nervous system to reach where trauma is stored, below your everyday awareness. That kind of processing needs more time to unfold, which is why it comes as an intensive and not a weekly session.
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It depends on what you're working through, since deeper patterns and more complex histories take more time to process. Most people do one intensive every three to six weeks and continue until the experiences they’re targeting are fully reprocessed.
For complex trauma, somewhere between 6 and 12 sessions is typical.
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It depends on the complexity of the issues you’re working through. Often, one Multi-Day Intensive is enough to fully reprocess a specific experience or pattern. Other times, it makes a meaningful dent, and you can choose to keep working on it with me or another therapist for weekly sessions.
By 'specific experience or pattern,' I mean something relatively contained, like a painful breakup, an argument, a car accident, an assault, or a behavior pattern that shows up in one clear place, such as people-pleasing at work.
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Therapy intensives are longer sessions of focused work, often a few hours at a time instead of the traditional 50 minutes. That extra length lets you settle in and reach the deeper material without the clock cutting you off. In a standard session, a good chunk goes to catching up at the start and wrapping up at the end, which leaves only a short window of meaningful work, and you tend to hit the important part right as it's time to stop.
My intensives are trauma-focused, use both EMDR and IFS, and come in two formats: a multi-day intensive for one specific experience or pattern, and ongoing intensives for deeper work over time.
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They're fully virtual. I see clients throughout Utah, so you can do your intensive from home or anywhere private and comfortable, with no commute on a day of deep emotional work.
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Yes! EMDR and IFS work just as well virtually. I guide the bilateral stimulation over video, and you'll follow a moving dot with your eyes, tap side to side, or use another form of guided stimulation.
Being in your own space is often a plus, since you can have a blanket, a warm drink, or your pet nearby to help you feel comfortable as you tackle deep-seated experiences and challenges.
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No, I’m not in-network with any insurance providers. Insurance doesn’t cover the intensive format, since it's built around plans that assume weekly 50-minute sessions. Working privately is what makes this format possible, and it gives us more freedom in general: the work is shaped around your goals and how you respond, not what a plan will approve. It also means no mental health diagnosis is required to justify treatment, so nothing follows you onto your medical record afterward.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready or which format fits?
That's what the free consultation is for. We'll talk through what you're working on, whether an intensive is the right fit right now, and if so, which format makes the most sense. Just get in touch, and I’ll help you figure it out!